Paying Child Support For Another Man's Child
Today I would like to address one of the most underrated dilemmas in our society. Unlike my previous posts, I will go more in-depth with this dilemma so that you (the readers) will have a good sense of the overall situation.
Dilemma:
A man has been court ordered to pay child support for a child in which DNA tests has proved he is not the father.
Problems/Issues:
This man was formerly married to the mother of this child when the child was conceived and for many years after the child was born. He reared this child as if it were his own, because until the DNA results, he did not know he was not the biological father.
He and his wife got a divorce after many years of marriage and the man later remarried. Because his new wife had her doubts about the child being his for some particular reason, the man decided to take a paternity test to prove he was in fact her father. The results were devastating. They proved that another man actually fathered the child and the ex-wife came clean about an affair she had while they were married.
This is where it gets interesting. The man is so infuriated that he decides to appeal the court order to pay child support and alimony upon the divorce from the mother of the child. Even with the new evidence, the court upheld the decision that he continue to pay child support. They did relieve him from paying alimony, but not child support because they felt it was in the best interest of the child.
Questions:
Should this man have to continue paying child support even though the DNA tests proved he is not the biological father? Is it in the child’s best interest that he continues to pay or should the biological father be held responsible? If you think he is not responsible to pay, should the mother repay him for all the time he did pay? What do you think and why? Please respond with comments, suggestions, etc.
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I was a great Dr. Phil wasn't it?
The guy was wrong to cut off contact with the little girl - sometimes it's really not about "you". The ex wife was a vindictive little thing who knew full well that the husband was not the father of the child. She should take responsibility - but there is no legal consequence so she won't.
MY HUSBAND STILL PAYING CHILD SUPPORT AND HE IS NOT THE FATHER WE ARE NOW IN THE MIDDLE OF A BATTLE TRYING TO STOP PAYING FOR A CHILD THAT IS NOT HIS.
MEANWHILE HER BIRTH MOTHER KNOWS THE FATHER AND EVEN LET THE LITTLE ONE VISIT HIS REAL FATHER IN MEXICO.
WHEN THEY MEET ( EX AND HUS) SHE WAS 6 MONTHS ALONG SO HE HELP HER AND MAKE A DEAL THAT HE WAS GOING TO HELP HER AND SIGN HIR BIRTH CERTIFICATE OF THE CHILD, NOW THAT SHE HAVE TO TAKE RESPONSABILITY SHE STILL WANT'S HIS MONEY.
@Cheryl...Yes! It was a great show. I agree with you that she should take responsibility.
@Cristal...Sounds like your husband is a very respectful man, but I hate he signed the birth certificate. I applaud him for taking responsiblity for the child.
I found out that I was not the bio dad to my son when he was 10. My ex was very deceiving and manipulative. I believe this is the worst thing a woman can do to a man except killing him. She knew exactly what she did and after we divorced I had a DNA test done. She knew what she did, its terrible, than she wanted to tell my son. Yes, I love him like he is my own, I had to have court records sealed and had the court tell her to keep her mouth shut and yes, I have paid child support all these years. He is 17 now, and when he turns 18 his mom is going to tell him, I think it should be up to me to tell him about this not his mom, who will lie to him regarding why she did this. I don't think he should know until he is mature enough to understand. Its a shitty deal and women need to honest and let their husband decide if they want to raise the child or not. If not they should be able to get support from bio-affair father who split our entire family up along with my ex. This was the worst time in my life when I found this out but I needed to know.
The money is important, but responsibility for the well-being of a human being that you have nurtured is more important. It is equally a lie and dishonest for a parent whom one has loved to suddenly withdraw for something the child has no say in. The child is alive and needs to feel valued and wanted. A deceitful mother is one thing the child will have to deal with, but to be rejected by a parent, whether biological or not, is morally wrong and a man with any integrity will not walk away, but solve his hurt and economic issues without hurting the child. There are tax advantages, after all, with child support.