I have a reader who sent me an email to post this question.

Dilemma:

She is having a problem determining whether or not to visit her in-laws or her own family this holiday season.

Problem:

She and her husband are going through a divorce, but neither family knows. She doesn't really get along with her in-laws, but her soon to be ex-husband has yet to tell his family. His family is expecting them for the holidays, which has been planned for months now. She has also failed to tell her family, but wants to spend time with them for the holidays since she and her husband are on bad terms. She also does not want to put on a fake and wants to allow her husband to tell his family on his own time.

Question: